You look after everyone. Who looks after you?
Parents, carers, teachers, healthcare workers, charity founders, pastoral leaders — people whose days are built around the needs of others. If you're running on empty and it's starting to show, this page is for you.
Capable people are allowed support too.
The quiet cost of caring
Maybe you care for or work with children with big, baffling behaviours. Maybe you carry the wellbeing of your family on your shoulders, or lead a team, a charity or a ministry that exists to help others. Maybe you care for someone whose independence has been stripped away.
Giving out, day after day, has a cost: overwhelm, exhaustion, compassion fatigue, the feeling of having lost yourself in everyone else's needs — and the strain it puts on your closest relationships.
Counselling that understands helpers
Before training as a counsellor I founded and worked in schools in Asia and the UK, and volunteered for three years with a charity supporting families through severe trauma. I know this territory from the inside.
Our work makes space for the parts of you that have been on hold. We listen to your body and nervous system — so much of burnout lives there — and rebuild a kinder relationship with yourself, so that caring for others no longer requires abandoning yourself.
Asking for help is not selfish
Many helpers feel that taking a counselling hour for themselves is indulgent. It isn't. Taking care of yourself is what makes it possible to keep caring for others — and you deserve care in your own right, not only as fuel for more giving.
Where and how we'd work
Sessions are 50 minutes and cost £55, with concessions sometimes available. We can meet in person in a peaceful farm setting near Ash in East Kent (between Canterbury and Sandwich, easy to reach from Deal, Dover and Thanet), at Lighthouse43 in Folkestone, or online, wherever you are. It always starts with a free, no-pressure 20-minute call.